PISSING OFF!!!
being born and brought up in calcutta,and being an outdoor
person,and above all being a girl,i am pretty much used to
people passing comments at me....in fact i have become so
accustomed to the fact that girls,generally are commented
at,that it scarcely bothers me anymore...
today however i came dangerously close to losing my
temper...an hour ago i went out for a smoke with 3
friends(perhaps i should specify that all 3 were guys)...the
first fag of the day still gives me a pleasant dizzy
feeling,so me and a guy sat down on a "rock" and lighted
up...3 people(men) sitting on the adjoining "rock" turned
around and stared long and hard at me...and i bet they were
thinking the same thought:"kolijug!!"
if they had been content with just that look i wouldnt have
minded in the least...but then i guy says"meyechhele hoye
jonmalo keno?betachhele holei parto!"times like these indeed
make me wish that i had been a guy...i think its the epithet
"meyechhele" which got to me,i dont know why i find it
extremely derogatory..my friend got very pissed but i asked
him to ignore it,being a guy he was of course blissfully un
aware that this is something girls have to face
everyday,this and more,liked being groped in crowded
buses...i'll write another blog on that sometime ...getting
back to today's incident...then they went on to sing obscene
bhojpuri songs..and said stuff like"era sob injiri bola
mal,dekhle hobe khorcha achhe.."..i wanted to go and
khistify them to hell and i am confident that when it comes
to khistis i can give all of them run for their
money..bangla khistis at that,not"injiri"!!but they were 3
guys with me,i didnt want a public brawl...R(my friend) was
fuming,but i swallowed my anger and asked him to chill..he said"its so damn unfair,that i can get away with it 'coz i am a guy,and u have to face this just 'coz u r a girl?"..the sheer futility of that statement made me smile.."welcome to calcutta" i said!!
i am not trying to defend smoking here mind you...i do NOT think that girls who smoke are progressive or modern or whatever...smoking is not cool,it is unhealthy and harmful,and an extremely bad habit,but its equally bad for guys AND girls,what i'm trying to say here is that it doesn't make it worse just because i am a girl!!
since i joined ju,i have grown used to people not giving
girls who smoke a second look,but outside the safe haven of
my university and presi(which is where i mostly hang out)i
see the world hasn't changed a bit...disapproving looks i
can take,raised eyebrows mild comments i can take,but
sometimes people just cross the limits of decency...i always
hide my fag when i encounter elderly matrons on the
street...why hurt people's sensibilities deliberately?my
parents know that i smoke,so do the resr of my raboner
gushti,i told them myself,because i didnt want them to come
to know of it from gayepora relatives or neighbours...if
they dont have a problem with it(i mean they do,but not
because i am a girl!)what the fuck is the problem of these
people?
whoa!!!that was one intense blog!!good thing i got it off my chest though....i should stop before i turn into a militant feminist!
person,and above all being a girl,i am pretty much used to
people passing comments at me....in fact i have become so
accustomed to the fact that girls,generally are commented
at,that it scarcely bothers me anymore...
today however i came dangerously close to losing my
temper...an hour ago i went out for a smoke with 3
friends(perhaps i should specify that all 3 were guys)...the
first fag of the day still gives me a pleasant dizzy
feeling,so me and a guy sat down on a "rock" and lighted
up...3 people(men) sitting on the adjoining "rock" turned
around and stared long and hard at me...and i bet they were
thinking the same thought:"kolijug!!"
if they had been content with just that look i wouldnt have
minded in the least...but then i guy says"meyechhele hoye
jonmalo keno?betachhele holei parto!"times like these indeed
make me wish that i had been a guy...i think its the epithet
"meyechhele" which got to me,i dont know why i find it
extremely derogatory..my friend got very pissed but i asked
him to ignore it,being a guy he was of course blissfully un
aware that this is something girls have to face
everyday,this and more,liked being groped in crowded
buses...i'll write another blog on that sometime ...getting
back to today's incident...then they went on to sing obscene
bhojpuri songs..and said stuff like"era sob injiri bola
mal,dekhle hobe khorcha achhe.."..i wanted to go and
khistify them to hell and i am confident that when it comes
to khistis i can give all of them run for their
money..bangla khistis at that,not"injiri"!!but they were 3
guys with me,i didnt want a public brawl...R(my friend) was
fuming,but i swallowed my anger and asked him to chill..he said"its so damn unfair,that i can get away with it 'coz i am a guy,and u have to face this just 'coz u r a girl?"..the sheer futility of that statement made me smile.."welcome to calcutta" i said!!
i am not trying to defend smoking here mind you...i do NOT think that girls who smoke are progressive or modern or whatever...smoking is not cool,it is unhealthy and harmful,and an extremely bad habit,but its equally bad for guys AND girls,what i'm trying to say here is that it doesn't make it worse just because i am a girl!!
since i joined ju,i have grown used to people not giving
girls who smoke a second look,but outside the safe haven of
my university and presi(which is where i mostly hang out)i
see the world hasn't changed a bit...disapproving looks i
can take,raised eyebrows mild comments i can take,but
sometimes people just cross the limits of decency...i always
hide my fag when i encounter elderly matrons on the
street...why hurt people's sensibilities deliberately?my
parents know that i smoke,so do the resr of my raboner
gushti,i told them myself,because i didnt want them to come
to know of it from gayepora relatives or neighbours...if
they dont have a problem with it(i mean they do,but not
because i am a girl!)what the fuck is the problem of these
people?
whoa!!!that was one intense blog!!good thing i got it off my chest though....i should stop before i turn into a militant feminist!
posted by mojo at 11:14 PM
11 Comments:
ahhhh bechara. i get it. meyechele kothata khub insulting bapu. bujhte pari. at least u got recognised as half a gal. amake majhe majhe mistake kore chele bhebe. bhebe dekh toke keu bollo "bhai, tumi ki mohon baganer fan?" and repeats it to blow ur illusions to smithereens? chap khash na. ar R-er dialogue ta verbatim likhte partish. shodhrabar dorkar chilo na. ;)
verbatim?? R er dialogue?? blogosphere e ektu chaap hoye jeto na??
ei na re emon kichui hoye ni..... mojo is making it all up.....she's just seeking some sympathy.....and u guys were stupid enough to fall for it....tomader moto lau aar hoye na.....oh and btw....rommo was not trying to defend her.....in fact he was almost about to join them in their endeavour of trying to pak marofying mojo...... i was there guys i know what actually happenned.......
hi.happned to chance upon your blog.ABout this incident ,i dont know if it really happned or not but there is somethingthat you should know.If you feel that this is the case only in calcutta you are quite mistaken.I have staye in bangalore,in chennai and other places.Bangalore is quite progressive,so to speak and it still happens there.Bottomline-morons are always gonna be there no matter where you are.Preconcieved notions lead to prejudice.its the same picture everywhere.
the thing with shubhayu is that no one knows when and whether to believe him at all...
why do i get the feeling that the desi blogosphere is being over run with the fairer-indian-sex ranting about how they are being picked on by anyone and evryone ?? Talibanism coming into india or what
I'm glad you got it off your chest too. Every few days I feel like posting a similar rant!
When I was in school I didn't notice these things much. For one thing smoking was restricted to private places and for another I was used to everyone disapproving of a school girl smoking. But after four years of JUDE where I no one gives a damn, smoking outside campus is almost emotionally scarring, not that it affects me anymore but still, it sucks :(
here's a little song i wrote,
i am going sing it note per note
don't worry be happy
in life there's always trouble
if u worry u make it double
don't worry be happy...
some men are swines wat can u do... kolkataz still better i would say compared to other metropolis' of india..
uff.....koto bhalobasha........aar parlam ma...........ole gole pore gelam laddu.......bhalo bhalo chokie jao.......
guru have you decided to give up blogging or somethin'????
I know people... who for that very reason... never left university
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